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Eric Rutberg, MA, DHEd
Doctor of Health Education
233 Village View Street
Wilton, ME 04294
Turn on to 156 at Rick's market. Take left on Village View. Take left into drive way of my home-office.
March 1, 2013
2013 marks my 10th year in "private practice" as a mental health counselor. Unfortunately, it also marks the worst year in my professional life.
Since leaving the University to work in Community Mental Health, I have worked for New Directions, Gentiva Healthcare, PROTEA Behavioral Services, Community Correctional Alternatives and Possibilities Mental Health Services; all of which have gone out of business. As an employee, I was dislocated every 2 years !
Tired of the constant shifting from one company to another, I decided to partner with a friend and colleague to launch our own agency....Constellations Health.
2 Years Later
Constellations Health Closed
Poor Choice of Partners
My business partner gave me "the business" (more as that develops) and MaineCare (AKA my "trading partner") proved utterly unreliable. Together, both were instrumental in the closing of the agency. I can say, without hesitation, the MaineCare system, it's employees, our legislators and the Governor himself perpetuate an utterly, dysfunctional organization. It was the obstructive and destructive ineptitude of the MaineCare system that ultimately brought down the agency. We could not get paid in a timely manner, for services rendered, For my part, I accept my role in NOT being able to navigate the MaineCare madness. I truly see how one would need a degree in healthcare administration and that it was an error to think that a reasonably bright counselor could effectively do so.
In retrospect, we were under-capitalized. To make it work, we really needed 45 days of operational costs in the coiffeurs. We did not have the necessary cushion.
In any case, I'm displaced at the moment. Sort of couch-surfing, which is ironic for a counselor right? So, I figured I should launch this newsletter-type website.
Your Well Being, LLC is my new company of 1. You can this website to keep up with me in this transition time as I rebuild my practice and/or find a new gig.
I want to add a blog but until then, you can email me ... or call.
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Inspiring ! Test Scores Don't Define Me
There are likely as many different definitions of success as there are people with aspirations.
However one might define their goal or notion of success, there are certain universal personality traits required in order to be successful. The sum of the essential personality traits required for ones success is referred to as ... character.
In order to better understand the concept of character, I briefly reviewed some pertinent literature, comparing and contrasting various theories of personality development.
When considering the definition of character, I recalled the teachings of Theodore Manville, my high school history teacher at Devonshire Preparatory School, in Mahwah, New Jersey. I don’t remember the specifics of what he taught but I do recall his admiration for Benjamin Franklin’s character. So I launched a search on the Internet and found a website posting “Ben Franklin’s 13-Virtues.” According to webpage author Ron Kurtus;
Around 1730, while in his late 20s, Benjamin Franklin listed thirteen virtues that he felt were important guidelines for living. These virtues consisted of temperance, silence, order, resolution, frugality, industry, sincerity, justice, moderation, cleanliness, tranquility, chastity, and humility. (Kurtus, 2005)
Franklin’s virtues appear to be a laundry list, of sorts; traits one must integrate to maintain the integrity of the more generalized term – character. Of course to the teenager, knee-deep in angst and the developmental task of individuation, such was I in Ted Manville’s class, the terms silence, order, moderation and humility simply did not compute. Looking at these concepts today, I recognize their value.
Ben Franklin’s 13-virtues are akin to the concept of “personhood”, as described in the book Integrity, by Dr. Henry Cloud.” Personhood, according to Cloud, refers to the essence of “who a person is.” (Cloud, 2006) There are many theories related to this topic. In the field of Psychology, Carl Jung writes prolifically about “personality types.” (Carl G. Jung, 1939) Other theorists such a Howard Gardner (Smith, M. K., 2002) and David Kolb (Kolb, David A. 1984) speak of “multiple intelligences” as ways to describe how people learn and interact with their environment. Whether referring to the inimitable Ben Franklin or the many other theories of personhood, all seem to agree that one must possess “a set of competencies,” (Cloud, H. Dr. 2006) in order to succeed in reaching their potential.
Dr. Cloud specifically refers to three personality traits; competency, alliance building, and character, (Cloud, H. Dr. 2006) as being critical to achieving success. He also identifies morals, ethics and integrity as three stepping stones to developing competency, alliance building, and character.
“Competence” is a developmental task thought to be essential to build confidence. From the time we transition from diapers to the time we enter the workforce, we each strive to develop competency over our mind and body. In this fast-paced, ever changing world, skill building or lifelong learning is essential for success. Nonetheless, there are some skills that come more easily to some that to others. For instance, I like carpentry but geometry is a difficult concept for me. And so, I am faced with 3 choices; 1) avoid projects, 2) do projects and expect major deficits or 3) align with a partner who possesses the skills I lack. Dr. Cloud points out that each of us makes a choice. Either we dwell on our shortcomings or we call upon an ally to help out. Recognizing that I have some skill deficits, I know I must cultivate alliances.
But why would someone want to ally with me?
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